Archive for March, 2009

Save Your Marriage Before You Get Married

Friday, March 13th, 2009

Divorce bothers me. It bothers me a lot. It bothers me because I think it’s avoidable in pretty much every instance. Working at a church and having a wife that is an attorney that does some family law I have an interesting perspective on the subject. I have the misfortune of seeing divorce a lot. In my experience the root issue has always been that the people should not have gotten married to begin with.

If you want a successful happy marriage it starts prior to the proposal. My wife pointed this out to me after she had read Ephesians 5:22-32. Being a strong confident woman, she had a hard time with verse 22, “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord” (NIV). Then, as she was studying verse 25 really hit her, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (NIV). She realized the importance of these verses for a single woman. She realized that it was her responsibility to find a man that would love her like Christ. Then, submission wouldn’t be an issue because her husband would be looking out for what’s best for her.

This is important for anyone who is considering getting married at some point in their life. It is important that you read through Scripture and learn what the Bible says about marriage. Look at this with a dual focus. On one hand open yourself to God to work in your life to be the kind of person that will be the kind of spouse described in the Bible. On the other look for the person that will be the kind of spouse described in the Bible and don’t settle for anything less. You are a person created in the image of God and you deserve to experience the marriage that God intends as defined in Scripture.

Take responsibility for your marriage before the proposal. Find and be the kind of spouse that God describes in Scripture then you will save your marriage before you get married.

Later this week I’ll talk maintaining a healthy marriage.