Posts Tagged ‘love’

what do you think about your wife/husband

Thursday, February 5th, 2009

In my last post I talked about the effects that thoughts have on experience. Today I want to apply that specifically to marriage. It’s an incredibly disturbing trend to me to see the number of marriages failing today. It’s a shame that the relationship that God designed to, in my opinion, most reflect Him often reflects Him the least. I think that the way we think about our spouses has a huge part to play in that. Take a moment and think about the thoughts you’ve had recently about your husband or wife. What have those thoughts been? Have you thought intentionally about them or have you let your mind wander? Have you thought about them at all when they weren’t present with you? A couple days ago I took some time to intentionally think about how much I love my wife and the things I love about her. It was incredibly fulfilling. It was almost like I fell in love with her all over again. Sadly, I don’t intentionally think about her or anything enough. Far too often I allow my mind to wander. I have a challenge for you. Take some time in the next 24 hours and think intentionaly about the person that means most to you. If your married I hope that person is you spouse. If not, think about your spouse anyway. It will be good for your marriage. Think about how they enrich your life. Spend some time intentionally reflecting on the importance your spouse, or if you’re not married the most important person in your life. After that 24 hour period journal or post here your thoughts and experiences. I think you’ll be pleased in the way such an action improves your relationship.

Husband in Chief

Friday, January 23rd, 2009

Have you noticed the media coverage regarding the Obamas’ public displays of affection? Right now with the media frenzy around the first family everything ends up in the news. I have, however, found it interesting that the public displays of affection between Barack and Michelle Obama have gotten so much air time. I’m glad it has though. It’s great to see a married couple that love each other and aren’t afraid to show it. I’m incredibly frustrated with the way marriage is so often portrayed in our culture. It’s not a “ball and chain.” It is the most fulfilling human experience in the world. Yes, I understand it doesn’t always work out that way. People marry the wrong people for the wrong reasons. But, whose fault is that? It’s refreshing to see the most influential couple in the world show what marriage could and should be. I hope that one of the legacies of President Obama’s time in office is a reminder of what marriage is intended to be and a strengthening of the marriages in America.

1 John 2

Thursday, December 4th, 2008

The teaching in 1 John chapter 2 is a familiar yet hard teaching. Following Jesus is all about love. True love. The God kind of love. I know when I’m experiencing this kind of love because I can feel my heart expand in my chest. I thank God that I’m experiencing this kind of love more and more towards more and more people. But, I don’t experience it often or consistent enough. I don’t because the corollary to experiencing this kind of love is denying the false loves in our lives. Too often I love stuff, or how people think of me and I pursue those kinds of love. That’s not God love. That love originates in me, finds fulfillment in me, and glorifies me. Ultimately this selfish love, this sin, cannot be fulfilled because it is forever seeking more of the same and it devalues me because it pulls me away from the only true source of fulfillment and value. I need to reject it and remove that love from my life and allow God to replace it with His love, so that I can have a more intimate relationship with him and be a more committed follower of Jesus.